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I feel compelled to talk about this in light of the two cases being heard this week in Washington, D.C. at the Supreme Court. Yesterday, March 26 the Supreme Court heard arguments over the constitutionality of California's ban on same-sex marriage and today, March 27, the Supreme Court will focus on a challenge to the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).

I could go into an amazingly long rant about this...but I won't...okay, kind of...I'll try and keep it short.  

My reasoning for accepting any and all types of love. 

1. Unalienable Human Rights. You remember that one piece of paper that talks about all men being created equally? What was it again? Oh ya, the Declaration of Independence. You know, that piece of paper our country was founded on after fighting in a war to separate from our original oppressors? Just a little history lesson/refresher..."all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness..." So unless you believe that gays, lesbians and transgender people aren't human-beings, then I understand how you would think they don't deserve those rights just like the rest of us. But fortunately, they are human-beings & they deserve every single right just like any other human-being. 

2. Mind your own damn business! If someone is gay, how the hell does that negatively affect me? Simple, it doesn't. Why would some one's happiness makes me feel uncomfortable? If anything, I am a little jealous that they found someone to make them happy.  

                                      

3. Separation of Church & State. Bible lovers? Fine. I grew up extremely Mormon. I still love the Gospel but don't agree with a few fundamental beliefs. Like their view on homosexuals, obviously. So to you Bible lovers, I say this:

 *History Lesson #2: In the Establishment Clause in the first several pronouncements in the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution it proclaims that the government has no place in church & visa-versa. 

*God taught not to judge. That ONLY HE has the right to judge. Not you. So technically if you are judging, you are breaking one of God's proclamations. Who is in the wrong now?

3. Adoption. "But the reason of sex & marriage is to procreate and homosexuals can't naturally procreate!" - There are so many unfortunate children that need loving homes & amazing homosexual couples that want children to love. Did you ever think that God intended homosexual couples to fulfill his wish by adopting those children that need families to love them? It makes perfect sense to me.

4. Being gay IS NOT a choice. Lady Gaga said it best, they were born this way. When did you choose to be straight? Oh you didn't? You were born that way. If you believe that being gay is a choice...why don't you try it out for a while.  Be sure to let me know how that goes for you.

5. Learn from our mistakes. Remember the civil rights era when it was unlawful for a biracial couple to get married. Or how about when women weren't allowed to vote? Times change. You don't say "oh I'm going to a biracial wedding this weekend". I believe that in 20 years, people are going to look back on this time of gay marriage debate and feel like absolute idiots for even discussing it. Normal changes. Accept it and evolve.


6. You can't help who you fall in love with BUT you can definitely choose to be an asshole. You don't choose love. Love chooses you.

7. What about the children? So you may have to (& should) go out of your way to teach your children what gay means. Educate them at an early age what love is. You aren't going to teach them TO BE gay. Instead, you will teach them that the world is colorful; different is not wrong.








8. Marriage is sacred. Straight people haven't quite figured out how to keep that sacred bond. Just think of Britney Spear's 55 hour marriage (still love you B), Dennis Rodman & Carmen Electra's 9 day marriage or Kim Kardashian's 72 day marriage. We legally allow them to get married and socially accept their nonsense...but we won't let a gay couple that have been together for decades get married? WTF?


9. Gay weddings would be fabulous. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. It would also bring your state revenue from marriage licenses. Gay marriage actually helps the economy!

10. Gay divorce would be fierce. That is definitely a Jerry Springer/Judge Judy show waiting to happen that I would TiVo religiously. Also bringing more revenue to the economy!


11. Rainbows. Okay, this one is just for me because I am obsessed with rainbows.

So stop drinking the haterade. 

If any two people are stupid enough love each other enough to get married, who are we to say that can't express that love and commitment like any couple.

Open your hearts. Open your minds. 

Can I get an AMEN?

HAPPY MONDAY! 

A funny thing happened this weekend & a blog post is to come but for now, a short & sweet funny for you! 

Funny yes, but also true. 

Yes, I am a feminist. I support equality for women everywhere and openly and vocally stand up for those inalienable rights. 

BUT I also support the theory of a "manly man" and part of that is a man buying me a drink now and again. Don't worry guys, like I said, I support equality. You show me a good time and I for sure will buy you some drinks as well.  

Hope you had a fabulous weekend! <3

I did, can you tell? 

Sunday Funday with one of my best friends, Karissa! She's a little excited about the Giants opening day coming up. I have a feeling I will be seeing a lot of baseballs in my future. As long as they wear those tight pants, I am a happy girl. 

1st Date No-No's

....To celebrate my one-year anniversary of being a single woman....

I decided to compile my list of "1st Date No-No's"

Disclaimer: Written for both guys & gals. Most of these are based on my personal experiences, some are my friends, all are facts, and most should be common sense.
No 1st dates were harmed in the writing of this blog. 
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• DO NOT ask me out via Social Media. I repeat DO NOT ask via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media account... 

• DO anonymously stalk. I suggest to EVERYONE going on a date, especially a blind date, to Internet stalk their date. May sound crazy but you never know who you are going out with. It's simply for safety purposes....okay maybe some other purposes too but I will stick with safety -- Google, Linkdn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Youtube! Do it all! You may find some very important information about your date that you need to know, keep reading I will explain. 
• DO NOT discuss your stalking. If you stalked them, don't act like you know the person on the date! Awkward! Takes all the surprise away and again, you look like a stalker. 

• DO NOT physically stalk. No seriously, people get arrested for that.

• DO eat like a normal person. There was a reason Carl's Jr. burger commercials always have a hot girl eating a messy burger. 

• DO NOT have your phone out on the date or you won't be seeing my name pop up on that screen again. 

• DO NOT ask someone out if you're still in a relationship. Even if you're on a "break", did you not learn anything from Ross & Rachel? Especially if you are engaged or married. Douche.

• DO NOT ask someone out if you're still "in a relationship" on your Facebook/social media sites or if they're still loaded with pictures of your ex or even worse...it says you're still engaged. Again, douche. 

• DO NOT ask someone out if your ex is still living with you. Can you tell I've had some bad luck in this department? 

• Ladies: DO NOT dress like a skank. Your mother was right about the whole imagination thing. If you're wearing a low cut shirt, put some pants on. If you go with an appropriate lengthened shorts or skirt or dress, make sure your boobs aren't falling out. 

• Fellas: DO NOT dress like a douche. If you have any type of rhinestones on, makeup, or a wrinkled T-shirt don't even sit down.  

• DO NOT have a Hangover. You probably are reeking like vodka & sweat & that bright blue bar stamp on your wrist is the trashiest accessory you'll wear. 

• DO NOT get Drunk. Before the date or during the date. Even if you're nervous. DON'T! This is not a game of beer pong. You are not proving anything if you drink too much besides your level of trashiness. Yes, trashiness is a word. 

• DO NOT be a 1-upper. It's annoying & you look like a douche. 

• DO NOT talk about your ex or your mother! Competition much? That's what we're thinking. On the same note...

• DO NOT talk about your trust issues. Welcome to Crazy Town. Population: YOU!

• DO NOT talk about your online dating history. Or ask me if/what online dating websites I've used. Or tell me I'd be really good at online dating....awkward. (P.S. I don't have anything against online dating websites but geeze I'm only 23. I'm not there yet!)

• DO NOT be an asshole to the server. And you better tip him well. Cheap is not cute. 

• LADIES: ALWAYS bring cash. Just in case you need to get out of the date quick or the low-life that asked you out "forgot his wallet". 

• FELLAS: If you asked her out, you pay. Chivalry is not dead. Be a man. And even when your date offers to pay or split the bill. You better decline her invitation. 

• DO NOT get nasty. C'mon....You know what I mean. If you actually want something more than a booty call, don't get it the first night. 

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Hope you enjoyed those! Let me know if I missed any! :)

I am sure there will be a Part II 

My Single Story - Diamond Ring

A few people have asked me about my story. Why I am single. I found a song today that perfectly describes a time in my life when I was at a crossroad and found myself ultimately walking the path alone. 

Diamond Ring, Sheryl Crow - Detours, 2008

I felt pressured to take my relationship with my long time boyfriend to the next step. We had been and lived together for multiple years and I loved him. We were comfortable. 

I thought I wanted a ring. A diamond ring. 

That Christmas morning when I opened my gift from him and saw a beautiful diamond ring staring back at me, I was in shock. It was a promise ring, not an engagement ring, but it was still a promise. 

We've all heard about those "near death" stories where your life supposedly flashes before your eyes. Well, that was happening as I was entranced with those diamonds. I saw good times and bad times. Then I flash-forward to all those life experiences that I was not going to have because of my commitment. 

As hard as it was, that ring woke me up. Brought me back to reality. 

I loved him but I needed to completely love myself before I was ready to give my all.

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Diamond Ring 

We made love all day
In our little hide away

But I blew up our love nest
By making one little request

Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Don't mean anything
Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Should not mean a thing

You could say I do
Hide your negative reviews
You love me you say
But you can't even face the day

Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Don't mean anything
Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Should not change,

Some say love is blind
But I say love is only in the mind

Diamonds may be sweet
But to me they just bring on cold feet

Someday you'll be like me
With someone who just wants to be free


Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Fucks up everything
Diamond ring
Diamond ring
Should not mean a thing.

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I am BLESSED to say we are still good friends but for right now, just friends. I love him. I would do anything for him and I know he would do the same for me. We are living separate but happy lives. Separating was the right decision. We found ourselves again and we found our own independence. 

(fun times, just friends) 

If I told you I didn't think about that diamond ring, I would be lying. 

If I told you I didn't put it on my finger once and a awhile, I would be lying. 

...But perfectly lonely is where it and I will stay... 

The Violence Against Woman Act - Time to Rejoice!

AMERICAN WOMAN SHOULD BE VERY PROUD OF THEIR VAGINA'S TODAY! 

Their vagina's, their President and their Congressional leaders. 

Today, March 7, 2013, marks the day that President Obama signed a law expanding protection for woman's rights, The Violence Against Woman Act (VAWA). This bill not only had the support of President Obama but also bipartisanship in Congress, meaning both Democrats and Republicans came together and supported this bill. THAT IS HUGE! 

This bill was originally written by our now Vice President and then Senator, Joe Biden WAYYY back in 1994 and today, it was renewed and rights were extended. This new bill extends coverage to woman of Native tribes, immigrants and gays & lesbians. I'm feeling the love here ladies! 

President Obama said at the signing ceremony, "All women deserve the right to live free from fear...that's what today is about". 

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SO WHAT DOES THIS NEW LAW DO?

This new law improved the criminal justice response to violence against women by: 

• holding rapists accountable for their crimes by strengthening federal penalties and creating a "rape shield act" to better represent the victim
• mandating that victims are not forced to bear the expense of their own rape exams or for protection
• keeping victims safe by requiring protection - this was extended to all state, tribal and territorial jurisdictions within the U.S. 
• increased rates of prosecution  conviction and sentencing of offenders by helping communities develop dedicated law enforcement and prosecution units and domestic violence dockets;
• ensuring that police respond to crisis calls and judges better understand the realities of domestic and sexual violence through training -- VAWA funds train over 500,000 law enforcement officers, prosecutors, judges, and other personnel every year 
• providing additional tools for protecting women in Indian country by creating a new federal habitual offender crime

This new law ensures that victims and their families have access to the services they need to achieve safety and rebuild their lives by: 

• responding to urgent calls for help by establishing the National Domestic violence Hotline -- this hotline answers over 3 million calls and receives over 22,000 calls for help EVERY MONTH! 
• improving safety and reducing recidivism by developing community responses that work together to prevent and respond to violence against women
• focusing attention to the needs of undeserved communities - this was extended to include immigrants and supporting tribal governments; American Indian and Alaska Natives

(All of this information was found at the White House website -- learn more by clicking the following link: http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/vawa_factsheet.pdf

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I haven't been more proud to write a blog post than this one. I consider it an HONOR to be a female. We have fought for our rights in this great country time and time again. This is another milestone to add to the history books. 

Remember your self worth. We are strong. We are deserving of equal rights and protection. We are women & we won't back down! 

Guess I'll be putting those bras away I was going to burn :) 

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Oh & if you want to know the 22 Republican ASSHOLE men in the Senate that deserve hate mail for voting AGAINST the VAWA -- here is a picture below :) Send away ladies. You can find their e-mail addresses on their Congressional websites - just google. Most notable votes against the bill were Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-KY) and Senator Marco Rubio (R-FL) who has potential for running for President in 2016... Can you imagine. 

Quote of the Week - HELL

I don't think I even have to say anything....Ms. Albright pretty much wrapped this one up for me.