"Jumpers"

Jump·er: 

n 

1. An individual recently out of a relationship or non-platonic commitment who rebounds to another relationship with little or no time in between.

Yep...I just did that. I need to add that definition to Urban Dictionary pronto before anyone else gets a hold of it.

Let me first say that I hope I don't offend anyone by this post...but if I do...it's my opinion and my opinion is that you're nuts. Second, if you know me & all of a sudden you feel like I'm talking about you, you should already have heard this from me in person. Whether you decided to listen to me or not is your choice and I will love you & support you no matter what. Unless you're not my friend and then you can refer to my first statement....nuts.  

Now that's out of the way, let me explain. You ever have that friend...girl or guy...who just can't stay single? They literally jump from one relationship to another? Everyone has at least one & I wish I could scream it from the top of the Empire State Building - I DON'T GET YOU!

Unless it's that, "can't eat, can't sleep, reach for the stars, over the fence world series kinda love" why do it? Don't you remember how bad it just hurt to get out of that other relationship? You were someone's partner, their other half...how you can rearrange your life all over again to fit a new person's?

Maybe you think it's easier with someone else. Maybe you're afraid to be alone. Maybe you don't even know you're a serial dater.

Please know I'm not judging you. I truly don't understand. After I broke up with my last very serious relationship I was devastated. I loved him but it wasn't right. I couldn't imagine jumping into another relationship.

What I did learn after the break up is how much I LOVE the freedom of being single! I could seriously go on and on about all my favorite things but that's annoying.

What I really want to know is how you feel about jumpers and if you've ever jumped? Was it the right choice? Did you regret not having enough single time or was it the best relationship of your life? Maybe I'm the one with the issue and I should take the stick out of my....sorry mom....

Moral of the story: We are stronger than we think. You can be independent without being lonely. I promise. Take a little bit of extra time in between those relationships. Try and find happiness within yourself before looking for someone else to make you happy. Know your self-worth and love yourself. If anything, I think you will be able to make your future partner happier if you do. If they really like you, they can slow the hell down. If they're impatient, well, do you really want an impatient boyfriend anyway??

It's OKAY to ask for help!

It's been a pretty tough week guys! Tonsilectomy is no joke, let me tell you!

 

I can't tell you enough how appreciative I am to my parents, other family & friends for sending good vibes, positive messages, flowers & balloons and for taking care of me! I could not have done this without you guys!!

 

&& that got me thinking...as much as I am an independent person, I seriously could not have done it without help.

 

It was really, really hard to depend on my parents. I haven't lived with them since I was a fresh 18 years old -- & without revealing my age, I'll just say it's been more than a few years. -- I had to allow them to cook for me (& make me eat), wake me up every four hours on the dot to medicine, even do my laundry! So, it's safe to say, I had a lot of time to think.

 

Living alone has made me quick to rely on only myself for care but not only that, it's also made it hard to ask for help! I thought it was a sign of weakness or a lack of self power. 

 

I can actually think of multiple times where I have pushed people that love me away because I wanted to prove to myself I can handle my own.

 

My past has shown me, yes I can do it alone. But this agonizing past week has shown me that it is OKAY to ask for help! Especially when you really need it! It actually feels good to have people help you...

 

Moral of the story. Ask for help when you need. Lend a helping hand when someone does.

Those two things will make you the strongest YOU you can be.

 

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